Life is moving happily along here in our new (to me) hometown. The girls are enjoying school, and now that Labor Day is past they're done with the hot weather schedule; they finish up at 2:40 now instead of 1:40. Every school in the district has air conditioning except for the high school -- a beautiful old castle-looking building that DH's grandparents (on both sides) attended -- so I'm not sure why they needed a hot weather schedule (or how a single hour makes that much difference), but whatever.
I've signed Uno and Dos up for Girl Scouts. They'll be daisies! ("Daisies," Dos reminded me when they brought home the paper and begged me to let them join, "are your very most favorite flower, Mom.")
I had reservations at first: I am not a joiner (but the girls are, so I need to get over that and let them live their lives). I worried about the time commitment (but they only meet once every two weeks, so that's already better than twice-weekly karate last year). And the cookies! Don't get me wrong; I loves me some Girl Scout cookies. But how will I ever lose weight if I have cookie-pushers for daughters? (No response yet for that one, lol.)
My very wise parents wouldn't let me be a Brownie, I remembered, so might there be something unseemly about the organization? I reached back 26 years to reconstruct the context of that decision. I think (feel free to correct me, Dad) that aside from the time commitment, they objected to the Girl Scouts' feminist agenda; that would have been, after all, right at the height of the brouhaha over the Equal Rights Amendment (to which they were opposed). But then I remembered that I self-identify as a feminist anyway, so the Girl Scouts ought to be the PERFECT place for my daughters! :-)
I relented (DH had said yes without a second thought). We took the girls to the school cafeteria on a Tuesday evening, got some brochures, and filled in all their paperwork. Before I signed on the parent consent dotted line, I read to them the Girl Scout law and asked if they'd be willing and able to keep it:
I will do my best to be
honest and fair,
friendly and helpful,
considerate and caring,
courageous and strong, and
responsible for what I say and do,
and to
respect myself and others,
respect authority,
use resources wisely,
make the world a better place, and
be a sister to every Girl Scout.
I have to confess: I got a little misty-moisty eyed on that last line. I don't know why; maybe because I believe so strongly in the universal sisterhood of women, or because I love how close my girls are to each other, or because I miss my own family so much. But that phrase -- be a sister -- yeah. (*Cough!*) My allergies flared up.
They haven't had their first meeting yet. Apparently, it's a new group and it took a while to find a troop leader. (They asked me -- I'm sure they asked all the moms -- and I felt guilty saying no, but believe me when I tell you that I am not troop leader material, lol.) They finally did find someone, though, and we met her this morning before school when we dropped off our money for troop t-shirts to wear in the homecoming parade. (The girls are very excited about that, let me tell you!)
I think it will be good. The organization will nicely supplement the world view I hope to instill in them anyway; it'll give them something fun to do; it'll be a good place to make the right kind of friends. I think we're all excited -- even DH because, of course, there are those cookies....
~RCH~
6 years ago
5 comments:
Just eat a bunch of those cookies until you throw-up and you won't want to touch another one for years, if ever. Trust me. I speak from personal experience :-S
so mom + dad didn't let us join girl scouts (not that I remember ever having a desire too anyway) because they were against the feminist ideals of the organization? seriously?! the girl scouts??!! don't they basically just teach life skills and all that?
sister, I'm with you -- there is such power in womanhood! let those girls sell those cookies, damnit!
{sorry for my offensive language. I just felt so strongly all of a sudden}
and please send me a box of somaos?? :)
I don't think they disagreed with the ideals of the organization so much as the political activism of the organization (at least as it was in the early '80s). You know, the messing with the constitution and all that, the doing away with separate men's and women's restrooms in public buildings, the buy-one-get-one-free abortions, whatever else was being floated around (some of which was hooey, I'm sure, and some of which was probably of legitimate concern).
And keep in mind, too, that this is a 26yo recollection of an 8yo's perception of her parents' feelings about the national political climate. So I may be waaaaaay off base, lol. (I would love it if Mom or Dad would comment, hint-hint.)
Honestly, though, I'm glad they didn't let me become a Brownie. As I said, I'm really not a joiner (as my very brief stint in a 4H group would attest) and I probably wouldn't have liked it. Plus I only wanted to because Mindy Brimley had a cool outfit that she got to wear to school on troop meeting days. And looking back, the outfit wasn't really that attractive.
But my girls are not me, and I do think they will love it. :-)
(Oh, and as a PS -- whether they would self-identify as such or not -- and I bet they wouldn't -- I've always thought Mom & Dad were very feministy. I never felt like they valued the boys any more than the girls, or had any different sorts of hopes or expectations for us. So rock on Mom & Dad.)
You hock cookies and I'll send you some CHOCOLATE COVERED CARAMEL Corn (Boy Scouts have evil food, too!!!)
Mmmmmmm!
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